How to Back Out of a Commitment Without Losing Your Integrity | Kerry Siggins

A few weeks ago, Kerry Siggins was talking with her boyfriend Shane about his thirteen-year-old son who plays baseball. The main issue is that the boy does not really want to play baseball, and wants to quit. Shane was wrestling with what that would teach him about integrity, and Kerry paused, because she has fought that exact question her entire life.

This episode is about the story most of us inherited about commitment. That quitting equals weakness. That integrity means always doing what you said you were going to do, even when it no longer fits. Kerry traces how that story shaped her own decisions, staying in college programs, staying in relationships, saying yes to things she did not want to do, not because she was weak, but because she genuinely believed that saying yes was what a good person did.

She also shares two commitments she backed out of in the weeks before this conversation. A board seat. A judging panel. Both things she cared about. Neither of which she had the capacity to do well. What she felt when she made those calls surprised her, it was not just relief, it was ownership. She did not ghost the commitments. She also did not ghost herself.

The question underneath all of it is one Kerry is still working on: what does it mean to have integrity with yourself, and how do you know the difference between discomfort worth pushing through and misalignment worth acting on?

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